Forget marriage as a goal. Let’s be clear: It’s OK to be single. There is no stigma attached to it and no reason you can’t have as much fun on your own as you can being half of a couple. Single people can eat cereal for dinner if they want to, pick the TV station with no argument. If you’re single, enjoy it while you can. Indulge yourself. Do something-anything-that makes YOU feel good and don’t worry that you don’t have someone to share it with.
Get out of the house. Volunteer or take a class. Keep expanding your network of acquaintances. Active, involved people are happier with themselves, and that makes them more attractive to others.
Get out of the bars. You’re unlikely to meet the right person there.
Get on a “dating track.” Here’s where dating coach comes in, with a plan based on your interests and your day-to-day activities. You don’t have to turn your life upside down or become someone you’re not. All you have to do is execute the plan.
Change your attitude. Are you so busy looking for love that you have stopped living for today and enjoying the moment? Do you have “desperate” written on your face? The first thing you must do is stop chasing. You’ll be happier, more approachable and therefore more “catch-able.” It’s a fact: Most people meet their life partner when they aren’t looking.
Keep an open mind. People have lists describing the kind of person they want to meet. And I guarantee you that the person they end up with is not who they wrote the list about. You can’t account for chemistry. I met my husband when he was a client of the dating service I was running, but we didn’t even like each other at first.
Remember: There aren’t any rights or wrongs in dating, just strategies.